The Worst Thing That Could Happen to You Is Not the Worst Thing that Could Happen to You

A year ago today, I had a rug pulled out from under me. Devastating is too mild a word to describe how I felt, but it will suffice 365 days later. I became a ministerial statistic when I was informed a majority of the deacons in the church I pastored at the time voted to ask me to resign. I had heard of that happening to others, in fact several colleagues and friends from the same area had recently experienced the same fate, but I never dreamed it would happen to me.

As I left the office to go home and break the news to my wife, several questions occupied my mind. Is this the end for me? Is ministry over for me? What will my wife think? How will my daughter handle this and will she consider her dad an utter failure? How do I tell both of them the news? What do I do now? I must say, my wife and daughter handled the situation better than I did.

I share this a year later in hopes that I can be an encouragement to others who have been dealt a cruel, seemingly irreparable blow by circumstances. I want to share a few of the most important lessons I have learned through all of this.

  • God never wastes pain
  • My family is God’s greatest gift to me
  • I am not defined by what I do, but Whose I am
  • Forgiveness is never complete
  • God is not finished with you

If life has dealt you a crushing blow and if you are hurting more than you realized your heart could hurt, you need to know that God sees, God knows, and God is working. Hold on just a little longer and gain encouragement from Him.

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28

3 thoughts on “The Worst Thing That Could Happen to You Is Not the Worst Thing that Could Happen to You

  1. Thank you for writing as you have. We know you had a hard time, and we hurt for you, too. This post is also welcome because I have been through something similar in the church in which I played the piano as the only musician for over 10 years. We got a new pastor in June, and I was replaced by his IPad. He wanted CCM and put 5 speakers in this little sanctuary. We tried to deal with him and the one church member supporting his decisions, but when we could no longer worship there, we left. He wouldn’t let me minister with music, and there was no place for me anymore. The other members were powerless against this man. It still hurts, but I know God has another place for me, and we are going through the transition, visiting other churches, waiting on God’s direction for our lives. Yes, it is very hard to forgive because it’s impossible to forget the hurt. We’ll be following your posts. You are an inspiration. Thank you.

  2. Star Richardt

    I can only think of one thing to say:
    Through it all,
    through it all,
    I’ve learned to trust in Jesus,
    I’ve learned to trust in God.

    Through it all,
    through it all,
    I’ve learned to depend upon His Word.

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